An attempt to declare the Glory of God for what He has chosen to do with our lives. A legacy to leave to my children in the telling of it.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

A Bit of Advice

There is probably a good reason behind the old adage about those who are grieving, the ever popular response of, "I don't know what to say, so I won't say anything." Even as a grieving mother I stand guilty as charged. Too often I have kept my mouth shut, too, because there really aren't any right words to say. But to all the Christians out there, let me offer my advice on what truly not to say:

*Don't turn the grief back to personal emotions, instead turn it to Christ.

*Don't wallow with said mother in the now, but rather, change her focus towards the glory to come.

*Don't discredit the feelings, but point out that they are feelings; point out the truth of Scripture, the truth of eternity, the truth of Jesus.

*Feel free to give that poor, unsuspecting, grieving mother in the midst of her pity party a good, swift kick in the behinder. I have a sister who is very good at this, and very unafraid to do it. Wham! "Get over it! Open your eyes! Heaven is a far better place to be. Jesus saved your son, He even showed you that He saved your son. Get out there and fight for more souls."

*Then let that poor blithering mother melt into a pile on the floor right before your very eyes until her tears stop. And next week, do it all over again.

To all those who have been brave enough to point me back to Christ in this trial,
my unending thanks.


Brenda said...

It IS hard to know what to say. And saying nothing IS easier than the uncomfortable thought of saying the wrong thing. I don't say much ... but YOU, lady ... are still in my prayers every morning.

I pray the Lord lift you up, wrap His arms around you, and walk every step with you! :D

Dalyn Weller said...

I'm more the type to hug her and kiss her. :)

Camille said...

Precious and true words. May the LORD continue to give grace and strength to you in the midst of the valley He is taking you through. He is glorified in the grieving as you point yourself and others back to Him. Blessings, Camille

OurCrazyFarm said...

You were one of the first people who came to mind when I thought of those prayer warriors, Brenda:) So much appreciated!

Yes, Dalyn, hugs work just as well!

Thank you Camille~ you are in my thoughts and prayers often as you walk this walk, too.

Shoshannah said...

I don't always know what to say, but feel so much. Anyone who has lost a child or has wayward ones can truly, fully understand. I wish I could give you a big hug! You are in my prayers. By the way, I have just ordered a Puritan book of prayers on a recommendation and am hoping it will help me to better tell God all that is in my heart. Thank you for sharing and being open about what you are thinking and feeling. It is very helpful to those of us who are "listening".